Up untill a couple of days ago this was just another story that didnt really mean anything to me i know that might sound harsh or uncaring and i dont mean any offence by it
But we have just found out that my mum has stomach cancer and yesterday she went in for her op to have part of it taken away unfortunately the cancer was worse than they anticipated and her whole stomach was infected so they took the decision to leave it as it would not improve her quality of life she cannot eat or drink ever again and has less than 6 months to live
She has always been there for anyone shes a real people person and even when i was sobbing like a baby she was the one making sure i was okay
It seems cancer is in our family from her dads side with her two sisters and a niece having died with it
I am still feeling quite numb about it at the moment
Hope my small donation can help in some way
Dean Im really sorry to hear your news, you undoubtedly feel devastated.
If there can be any solace in the fact that others have been where you are before.
My Mother died last year very very suddenly. She was diagnosed with cancer in multiple sites throughout her body, the primary being ovarian. She died 3 days after her diagnosis. We were literally having Sunday lunch with her one week completely unaware of her being ill, the next Sunday she had been dead 2 days.
If I can say anything to help, it is that you MUST spend time with her, we had 3 days where Mum said she was the happiest she had ever been. It is good to know now we were there and 'walked' with her if you see what I mean.
Some people have NO time to set things good and okay with their loved ones.
You have some time, use it.
When Mum first recieved her diagnosis her GP spoke to me and my 2 sisters privately and said 'You are at the start of a journey and afterwards you will be different people' (He was crying when he told us as his Dad had died 5 months earlier) IT will be the same for you Dean. He was right.
My thoughts are with you and your family Dean.
Matt
p.s. its funny Dean what you say about your Mum being strong for you still after her diagnosis and you doing the crying; I went into my Mums bedroom for the first time after she was told, crying (like I am now remembering it) and she was the one saying she wasnt afraid and it was all going to be okay even if she was going to die......theyre Mums to the end, and when theyre gone you know you only had one (that to me is why it is so sad sometimes)