Bonzer,
A 4040 will give you loads of water if you have the pressure. If you do have good pressure then you might get 1:1 ratio, but if you restrict the drain too far your output TDS will rise, so you need to get the 4040 and give it a try on your water pressure, find out what works best for you, then add up the waste & the pure, work out a days use, then you will have a figure for the soft water you need.
My numbers were based on 1:3 ratio, so 500 litres of pure = 1500 litres of input.
steve@freshwatersystems.co.uk