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james peters

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I have not posted for a while
« on: May 29, 2025, 07:35:19 pm »
As above , on the 20th of february my lovely soul mate and partner passed away.
she was only 59, and i am 53.
I have continued to look in each morning , and was saddened to hear of darren (smudgers passing)
as we all know , smudger  had kidney faliour. my sian was a renal nurse , and her job was giving dialisis to patients with kidney problems .
As i reflect through my greif , i ask myself , ? what would sian want for me ?
so I have just ordered my first extreme pole . ( I hope its worth the hype )
she would laugh at this , as one year she asked me what I would like for christmas .... that year I got some univalves  ;D
her very last gift to me was a beanie hat with a torch so i could see on the dark mornings getting ready for work.


Spruce

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #1 on: May 29, 2025, 08:17:42 pm »
As above , on the 20th of february my lovely soul mate and partner passed away.
she was only 59, and i am 53.
I have continued to look in each morning , and was saddened to hear of darren (smudgers passing)
as we all know , smudger  had kidney faliour. my sian was a renal nurse , and her job was giving dialisis to patients with kidney problems .
As i reflect through my greif , i ask myself , ? what would sian want for me ?
so I have just ordered my first extreme pole . ( I hope its worth the hype )
she would laugh at this , as one year she asked me what I would like for christmas .... that year I got some univalves  ;D
her very last gift to me was a beanie hat with a torch so i could see on the dark mornings getting ready for work.

I'm extremely sorry for your loss.
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The older I get, the better I was ;)

colin bird

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #2 on: May 29, 2025, 09:21:56 pm »
As above , on the 20th of february my lovely soul mate and partner passed away.
she was only 59, and i am 53.
I have continued to look in each morning , and was saddened to hear of darren (smudgers passing)
as we all know , smudger  had kidney faliour. my sian was a renal nurse , and her job was giving dialisis to patients with kidney problems .
As i reflect through my greif , i ask myself , ? what would sian want for me ?
so I have just ordered my first extreme pole . ( I hope its worth the hype )
she would laugh at this , as one year she asked me what I would like for christmas .... that year I got some univalves  ;D
her very last gift to me was a beanie hat with a torch so i could see on the dark mornings getting ready for work.

I’m really saddened to read your post and I’m sorry but I don’t know what to say to you,I can’t begin to imagine how you feel.
After reading the contents of your post I feel Sian would be proud of you for ordering a new pole as I feel she would see that as a positive step in you trying to rebuild your life.
Be proud of yourself for what you’re doing ,keep that beanie hat with torch on it close at hand to help you through the darker days.

Good luck,on your journey

dd

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #3 on: May 29, 2025, 09:34:47 pm »
So sorry to hear your news James.

Very best wishes, David

NBwcs

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #4 on: May 29, 2025, 09:55:52 pm »
So very sorry to hear this James, words just dont cut it when things like this happen, take care, im sure the "cleanitup family" will all be here for you.

AuRavelling79

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #5 on: May 29, 2025, 10:24:26 pm »
Your post brought a lump to my throat James.

Sian would be pleased to know that the Xtreme is a very wise choice on your part.

Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss.
It's a game of three halves!

james peters

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #6 on: May 30, 2025, 07:12:59 am »
work has been my saviour... I have many customers over the decades, that have lost their spouses
The kindness these customers have shown has been remarkable .
thank you all for your kind words

tlwcs

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #7 on: May 30, 2025, 04:39:10 pm »
My condolences James.

KS Cleaning

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #8 on: May 30, 2025, 05:45:57 pm »
Sorry to hear of your wife’s passing.

dazmond

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #9 on: May 31, 2025, 03:08:52 pm »
work has been my saviour... I have many customers over the decades, that have lost their spouses
The kindness these customers have shown has been remarkable .
thank you all for your kind words

My brother lost his wife to leukemia a few years ago at the age of 51. It hit him hard and he went on a drinking spree for the best part of 3 years....

Don't hit the bottle whatever you do as it'll just make everything worse....

All the best for the future pal. When you look around you ll always find people who ve been through the same experiences. Your never have to go through it alone.
price higher/work harder!

dazmond

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #10 on: May 31, 2025, 03:10:33 pm »
Xtreme poles will make your working days easier for sure James 👍
price higher/work harder!

Slacky

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #11 on: May 31, 2025, 09:12:00 pm »
Saddened to read of your loss James, and how you’re reflecting on things because of it.

R.I.P. Sian.

Thankyou for sharing.

zesty

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #12 on: June 01, 2025, 06:49:55 am »
Really sorry to hear that James.

Please make sure you get around family and friends for support, you’re not alone.

Well done for making positive decisions, I’m sure working will help give you a focus and help you with the grieving process.

Scottish Cleaning Service

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #13 on: June 01, 2025, 07:03:08 pm »
When I started this career 6 years ago, I decided to buy the best and invest all the money back into it. I don't see the point in saving unless its for a special reason. I changed when I received the fire service pension and had no money worries. I would hope windies run with the lightest poles because they are a dream to work with.

tlwcs

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #14 on: June 01, 2025, 08:03:56 pm »
When I started this career 6 years ago, I decided to buy the best and invest all the money back into it. I don't see the point in saving unless its for a special reason. I changed when I received the fire service pension and had no money worries. I would hope windies run with the lightest poles because they are a dream to work with.

Within this, I’m sure he wishes you well and offers his condolences

james peters

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #15 on: June 02, 2025, 08:28:01 am »
When I started this career 6 years ago, I decided to buy the best and invest all the money back into it. I don't see the point in saving unless its for a special reason. I changed when I received the fire service pension and had no money worries. I would hope windies run with the lightest poles because they are a dream to work with.

during the war ;D
thank you for your kind words  ;D

Jay Le Huray

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #16 on: June 02, 2025, 12:46:30 pm »
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss buddy, take care and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Scottish Cleaning Service

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #17 on: June 02, 2025, 01:59:21 pm »
When I started this career 6 years ago, I decided to buy the best and invest all the money back into it. I don't see the point in saving unless its for a special reason. I changed when I received the fire service pension and had no money worries. I would hope windies run with the lightest poles because they are a dream to work with.

Within this, I’m sure he wishes you well and offers his condolences

Of course I'm sorry for his loss and wish him the best of health. I have 3 funerals to attend so I understand his pain.

CleanClear

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #18 on: June 02, 2025, 04:35:55 pm »
^^^^^
if at first you don't succeed , try try again  ;D  Its like someones first day on the internet !!  ;D

Condolences James, you're certainley been through the mill.
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james peters

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Re: I have not posted for a while
« Reply #19 on: June 02, 2025, 06:03:54 pm »
When I started this career 6 years ago, I decided to buy the best and invest all the money back into it. I don't see the point in saving unless its for a special reason. I changed when I received the fire service pension and had no money worries. I would hope windies run with the lightest poles because they are a dream to work with.

Within this, I’m sure he wishes you well and offers his condolences

Of course I'm sorry for his loss and wish him the best of health. I have 3 funerals to attend so I understand his pain.

I very much doubt you understand , unless you have lost a soul mate
I have lost freinds relatives and my parents .
trust me .....this is in a different league
trying to explain this type of grief , would be like trying to explain to a blind man what the colour green looks like
but thank you for your sentiments
just a word to the wise
avoid saying things like i understand to greiving people
its extremely annoying
just a heads up