Get some fencing wire, you know the thick stuff,,make some sort of hook and lower it into the tank,once you have the element in the hole area someone can grab it from the out side and pull it towards the hole.
Then all you do is hold the element and turn it anti clock wise, this will get it through the hole so you can get the nut on, do not forget to put some sealant on the washer before you tighten,it all up.
Do not have the element too close to the bottom of the tank, mine is about six inches off the bottom.(500ltr tank) .
Hope this helps.
CCmids