Hi Mike, sorry but I am not an auto electrician, and don't know a great deal about electrics, perhaps someone who does could step in and explain? Until then I will have a go.
I know if you have something like a remote control for instance that is rated at say 3amp and you wanted it to turn a 7 amp pump on then you would use a relay in the circuit. The remote control would switch the relay, and the relay would switch the pump on.
The reason the remote would be rated at 3amps is because it can't handle a higher current than that flowing through it, hence the relay, the relay only needs a small current to open the feed between the battery and the appliance the battery is supplying, which is more than the remote can handle.
Now I would guess that with the relay in the circuit with the pump pressure switch and the pump, what is happening is the power from the pressure switch on the pump is opening and closing the direct feed from the battery to the pump motor without going through the pressure switch. So what is happening is the pressure builds up in the pump, and the pressure switch opens the direct feed in the relay to allow the power to pass direct from the battery to the pump motor, and because it is not the 7amps that is needed to start the pump flowing through the pressure switch it greatly prolongs the pressure switch life. The trouble with the pressure switch burning out and the fact that I said the relay takes the hit, I mean the relay is directing the power needed to run the pump straight from the battery, through the relay, and to the pump motor, and all that is happening in the relay itself is a small amp signal going from the pressure switch on the pump, to open the contacts in the relay.
The pressure switch is not burning out because it is opening and shutting all the time, it is more to do with the 7amp load that is flowing through it. Much the same is if you had a big chunky pressure switch on the pump instead of the little flimsy one supplied.
Do you understand this, or dosn't it make sense??
Peter