[Oakley Windows]

My Mother died very very suddenly earlier this year. For those who say they could have kicked themselves for something they said to another grieving person, when someone close to you dies talking about death isnt as bad as you think.

I sat on my Mums bed 2 days before she died which was about 3 hours after she'd been diagnosed with widespread terminal cancer talking to her about her funeral and what she wanted. It was bizarre/surreal in fact (friggin tragic too to be honest)  but there is no getting away from it, death happens, so dont avoid talking about it.

[Ian W]

That is a tragic story Matt.

You are absolutely right. Death is something we tend to ignore, but it happens to everyone. For some reason we tend to regard it as a taboo subject to talk about.

Nobody wants to upset a grieving person, hence people say something and then regret it, but only because they don't want to add to the pain.

My customer obviously wanted to talk, so my feeling of 'what did I say that for' went away pretty quickly.

[windowwashers]

Sorry to hear that Matt,

[peter holley]

My Mother died very very suddenly earlier this year. For those who say they could have kicked themselves for something they said to another grieving person, when someone close to you dies talking about death isnt as bad as you think.

I sat on my Mums bed 2 days before she died which was about 3 hours after she'd been diagnosed with widespread terminal cancer talking to her about her funeral and what she wanted. It was bizarre/surreal in fact (friggin tragic too to be honest)  but there is no getting away from it, death happens, so dont avoid talking about it.

my mum died  of cancer too,   she died after 3 months of becoming ill, i started greiving before she died, it was very strange greiving for someone that was still alive ,  it was also strange when a huge feeling of relief came when she died as she was in a lot of pain....i do have a faith, but at the time i was to numb for it to comfort me, but as time goes by my faith has helped....i know some of my freinds didnt know how to act around me at the time, but i just told them to be themselves...

[mark dew]

my mum died a 2 years ago. 7 months after my brother died of brain tumour. Split up with gf the same time as well.
It was really hard to get motivated and i had a couple of cancellations because of it as well. For being tardy.
I found the best way to feel motivated again was picking up new work. I still get a buzz when i see a number on my phone that i don't recognise.
Fortuanately, this is one of the few jobs that gives us the flexibility to take time away for the odd crisis.

[matt]

when i worked for the local council as a carpenter, we would fairly often have th e " force entry" and find them dead  , you could allways tell though as the stench though the letterbox was allways bad

you somewhat get used to it in the end though

[davids3511]

My dad died nearly a year ago of cancer. For those saying they could kick themselves for saying the wrong thing, you can't really do that unless you are extremly insensitive. My dad was gone, he had died and people talking about it or saying 'he did well to make it to 83' didn't really bother me at all. It was true really.

I used to find funerals really difficult and neve know what to say, now I know it doesn't matter what you say, it's just good to be there for the person greiving.