I finally installed my split relay charger, but it doesn't seem to charge, I edited the picture to show what I found out so far, everything seems to be connected just fine. In the picture 0 Ohms means that the wire is okay, so I used that to measure if the connectors were all okay, all wires checked out. No fuses are blown.
The Kampenwagen site says that you shouldn't get a reading from the wire coming from the vehicle battery to the relay when the engine is off, but I do get a charge there, 12.8v, and when I start the car it's over 14v.
Bought the relay off eBay, came with colour coded instructions. It says it's only for vehicles with a negative earth, whatever that means, it's a Citroen Berlingo.
On the relay (not the picture!)
Black is ground
Purple is no charge wire light, joined at convenient point at the thin wire coming off the alternator, it's quite a lot of wire though, it goes from left hand engine bay, behind the grille at the wipers, then enters the engine bay to the right, and goes to the split relay, don't know if that matters.
Blue to leisure battery
Green is to vehicle battery via fuse.
Red is unswitched live.
I'll try and get some pictures today. I think the relay might be busted, I don't know? It should charge immediately when the engine starts, but I don't even get one millivolt.