What is the difference of this relay to the one that comes with the one that is built in to the circuit board on flow,controllers.is it because the amps are much higher so charging can happen faster
I find that the alternator starts of charging the battery at about 13.8/13.9 volts. This will 'force' a slightly higher charging rate. Once the battery is fully charged, the alternator will not boost the voltage output above 14.4v. Your charging rate is governed by what your alternator is regulated to, so putting a higher amp split charge relay isn't going to change that IMO.
One of the other issues we have is that our leisure batteries are maintenance free. This means that they cannot be topped up with water. Charging an MF battery too quickly causes gassing of the water in the battery. Battery will be prone to failure due to a reduced amount of water - lower water levels in other words.
There is a number of videos put on YouTube by Sterling which are quite interesting with regard to charging.
Maybe we should be using the much more expensive traction batteries if we want to recharge faster.