[dave f]

first grow a pair of balls tell her if she rintgs you at work and it aint life or death your comming home and her f in stuff are in bin liners i had a wife like that shes now a ex wife, ho make sure youve got some where to go  ;Dlol

[Mist A Bit]

if she`s bad with one child why have another one with her? Your problems will be twice as bad. my ex never coped with our son and she wanted a second. i said no hence the relationship ended. now have my son at weekend and life couldn`t be better, tho she can cause trouble now and then

[Helen]

she is pregnant again tho so gotta put it down to hormones etc I left her for while last time when she was pregnant as couldnt live with her she was nuts oh well only another 7 months to go!!!

And you wonder why she is like she is.

You whole world needs turning upside down, a good shaking about and start again.
You admitted there is a problem in your business and money is tight and things are not good, yet you are expecting another little one........how irresponsible of both of you......in this modern age there is no need for anyone to fall pregnant, mistakenly or not.

My advice....close your business and go and work for someone else.
Regular money coming in and probably tax credits. Regular time off and paid holidays. Paternity leave available when you need it.
Also you can't just "pop" home when she wants or you'll get the sack
No stress and depression, just time to spend with your family.

Sorry Richy, but on the other thread I was seriously concerned for you and you business, but unless you have exaggerated on this thread, then its time for you to realise that your whole life needs turning around one way or another and time to make the decision of what is more important, family or business. Carry on like you are?   Then you will end up with nothing............

[Pope vader]

i am with helen,  self up or get rip of all your staff, just you and best guy and run as a 2 man,  it is amazing how easy life is when you have money,

[dazmond]

simplify your business.scale down.sell some work and surplus vans off and pay some debts.sit down with the missus and have a long chat about turning your business into a more profitable venture.

i reckon your heading for a breakdown mate if you dont resolve your business issues and debts.once you ve sold some work/vans and paid some debts youll be feeling much better(and sleep better!).

then you can start to make some money for you and family without having as much hassle.you ll be happier and less stressed.

good luck richy


dazmond

[richard jagger]

One question Richie. Are you really cut out to work for yourself and own a business? you don't seem to be equipped to run much.

[H S and Son]

What Helen said   

[Helen]

What Helen said   

where did the bit go about me being nice

[H S and Son]

Ha ha. I thought I'd edit it. You are nice, so is your other half. lol

[richywilts]

It's not quite as bad as I've made out now but 6 months ago things were difficult my daughter has a dairy allergy and was getting really bad stomach cramps and really bad dioreah and was up till late and then up thru the nite, on top of all my problems Thai last year, she also suffered from trouble getting wind up and colic since she's grown up a bit things have got easier last two months a little but I was getting a lot of phone calls to come home coz my girlfriend was shattered

Helen I think your a bit out of order you always jump the gun and harp on how crap I'm doing I'd like to see how you would cope in situation this last year ya quick enuf to judge I give honest posts about my situations and don't come on here lying I write honest posts and come here for advice.

Why would I want to close a business down that if worked
 hard at for last three to four years and let robbing bar stewards win and beat me if had a hard time but I'm not going to back down and crumble im prepared to go through hard times coz I'm confident I canter back on track.

I'm planning on asking my grandad to help out a little financially this weekend nd get back on track

[Richard iSparkle]

One question Richie. Are you really cut out to work for yourself and own a business? you don't seem to be equipped to run much.

i;ve never met richie, but from what i do know of him (i work in his area and on this forum), he is very good at running his own business.  he's done really well to grow a business many people on here would be delighted to have.  yes it sounds like he's made some mistakes in trying to get his business into a multi van operation with additional services and employees...  but he's certainly not the only person to hit trouble when growing from a single operator to a small - medium size business.  on a smaller scale i have hit some problems, especially last year, and i have the advice and support of a really experienced mentor who helped guide me back onto the right track.

richy himself can see things are not working right now, and he is clearly trying to sort things out the best he can.  he just uses the forums to vent a little, and to ask for help and support...  which does lay him open to being attacked quite a bit. 

for my tuppence worth i reckon richy knows what he needs to do to sort things out, and he's probably on the road to doing it.  its just never nice getting rid of people, and always hard to cull customers...  even bad ones 

[Pope vader]

richy, what helen said is right,  you come on here and all you say is you employ 5 staff yet you dont draw a wage, so you must work for free,  you have 600 custy on a 6 wekly cycle which to me is a 1/2 man work not 5, you moan your miss phones saying come home,  but if i employed 5 staff, i wouldnt be out working i would be part time office,

everone has given you the same advice, but you aint listening,  get rid off office boy and 2 of your staff,  put the other 2 in the van  cleaning windows, and you knock/office work your self,  that way you will at least get a wage and can help out with the kids,  becasue all i can see happening is you get in more debt, go bust, she leave you and takes the kids,  this business is the worlds simplest business over complicated by people,  you are the same as a wc i know,  every week he has a different idea how to make money,  struggles to pay his mortage,  but got all these great ideas   in lots of debt

[Pope vader]

One question Richie. Are you really cut out to work for yourself and own a business? you don't seem to be equipped to run much.

i;ve never met richie, but from what i do know of him (i work in his area and on this forum), he is very good at running his own business.  he's done really well to grow a business many people on here would be delighted to have.  yes it sounds like he's made some mistakes in trying to get his business into a multi van operation with additional services and employees...  but he's certainly not the only person to hit trouble when growing from a single operator to a small - medium size business.  on a smaller scale i have hit some problems, especially last year, and i have the advice and support of a really experienced mentor who helped guide me back onto the right track.

richy himself can see things are not working right now, and he is clearly trying to sort things out the best he can.  he just uses the forums to vent a little, and to ask for help and support...  which does lay him open to being attacked quite a bit. 

for my tuppence worth i reckon richy knows what he needs to do to sort things out, and he's probably on the road to doing it.  its just never nice getting rid of people, and always hard to cull customers...  even bad ones 

he might have a few vans and loads of custy, but isnt making money,  no thanks i will staick to my nice part time round,

cull custys is easy, if they dont pay they get dumped,  is he a charity

[colley614]

It sounds like its coming to a head for your Richy, be very careful you could come out of this situation with nothing

[Cliff perkins]

some women are meant to moan and do it very well,you have 1 of those type and so do i lol.
i feel your pain lol
fancy a beer 

[P @ F]

All women moan dont they ?   

Rich

[richywilts]

Basically I've got one cleaner a part time cleaner until things pick up and Chris in the office,whose focused on selling again now 2 nurseries 25 fascia jobs,a solicitors,and two hairdressers ain't bad for selling last week plus a quote on a new highschool.

Yes I knw things need a big change around and it will happen, I've got good staff who wud be hard to replace they just need leadership and direction,I've invested in training courses etc for sum of these staff.

Plus we got about 30 new customers

I'm gna stay off here for a while NW n report bknin fewmonths

[Helen]

It's not quite as bad as I've made out now....
Helen I think your a bit out of order you always jump the gun and harp on how crap I'm doing I'd like to see how you would cope in situation this last year ya quick enuf to judge I give honest posts about my situations and don't come on here lying I write honest posts and come here for advice.

I'm planning on asking my grandad to help out a little financially this weekend nd get back on track

FFS So now you say its not so bad, I have only commented on what you originally said and if that wasn't correct, then you have mislead everyone that has commented.
IF you read and understood things properly you would see that the concern I had was for your personal wellbeing..... but that concern was obviously misplaced as you didn't understand and again you just reach out to "blame" someone/something else.
By the way I am not alone in my thoughts about what you should do to put things right in your life so don't just have a poke at me
"Honest posts my a***
It's not quite as bad as I've made out now.... you words not anyone else's, so you weren't quite honest with that first post the were you.....
I wish you luck with whatever you do, but I just hope you have the health and family behind you to see it through.......oh and by the way your Grandad doesn't deserve to be pulled down with you.

As for hard times yes I've been through them and much worse than yours and so have many other thousands of people, just I wouldn't publish them to a forum of strangers to gain the sympathy vote...... so stop playing the role of " I am the only person this has ever happened to. The difference is that I was strong enough to get through and listen to what people were saying to me, take their advise and come out the other side a better person than I was before.

My apologies if I have offended anyone with this posting, it was unintentional. I just say it how I see it and if the original poster gets it wrong what hope have any of us got

[Pope vader]

i think the problem is when advice is given and people say what it is like in black and white  a lot dont like it,  the whole point of forum, is to get advice as can guarantee someone else has ballsed up before,  learn from there mistakes,   

[Danny Guest]

Forget courses for your employees
You need leadership courses for yourself! The best investment you can ever make is in yourself. It can never be taken away from you.

You need to learn how to lead your team and get the best out of everyone. Its a true art and takes time and i guess you need the instinct. I dont feel as if it can be learnt so you need to identify if you have the instinct or not.

If not employ someone who does and concentrate on the sales.

Good luck
Danny