Ive never used a controller, just an on off switch at the van
When you turn the tap off the pump stops with the pressure switch but is still under strain, so will wear quicker,
However I use cheap chinese pumps from ebay, not the 4lpm ones (use those in trolley) you can get 5lpm ones for about 15 quid each
Yes they pack in eventually, ran this way mine typically last 4 months. My system is very simple in general, i dont see the need to complicate it to be honest.