You might have to widen the hole slightly with some heavy sand paper or a file, depending what size hole saw you've used. I know the one I use could do with being 1mm bigger as I have to do just this. I don't use the washer on the actual flange, all I use is PTFE *paste* (not tape) on the flange threads- I don't use any sealer, silicone or anything else & have never leaked a drop. I do use the washer between the actual element & the flange though. PTFE paste is available from any plumbing merchants & usually the likes of B&Q, Homebase etc.