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UK Window Cleaning Forum => Window Cleaning Forum => Topic started by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 09:41:28 am

Title: ..............................................Your help is making a difference
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 09:41:28 am: Hi guys and girls.

As many on here will know my three year old niece Summer was fighting for her life last year
and sadly died from Cancer just before Christmas last year.

I am trying to get some sponsors for my wife as she is taking part in race for life to raise money for cancer research and I want to help beat her target.

This is my Wife and Summer (https://www.raceforlifesponsorme.org/images/UserImages/UK/EGG/0d7e3588-d24b-4e2b-b8da-206ea2b56304.JPG) time stamp wrong on camera.

I did ask for permission to post this on here and was ok'd

Any amount will help

Help me beat this target and help to find a cure for a this horrible disease that can happen to anyone young or old.

Last week should have been Summer's 4th birthday :'(
I cannot describe how this affected me and my family and the people that knew Summer, and my heart goes out to anyone that has or is going through this.

You can donate here http://www.raceforlifesponsorme.org/laurenwicks

Thanks for reading this and hope you can help make a difference.

Ian

£ 2,161.50 and still it is rising :o;D , thank you everyone that has donated so far ;D
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The history for people that do not know is:

Summer at about 11 months old had a large mass on her arm, the hospital said it was just something cosmetic and sent her and her mum away to come back when she was 18 to have plastic surgery if needed.

We went to the IOW where they live and the lump was massive I was praying it was not what I thought it was, she went back to a doctor and they called great ormond street hospital as an emergency and she was rushed up there (it was not cosmemtic it was cancer and had spread into her little chest)

when at Great ormond street they found Summer had a tummor in her arm and had gone to her lymph gland and was now around her chest wall (makes me shake typing this) they amputated her lower arm and removed the tumour from her chest wall and removed lymph nodes.

She then was given radio therapy and cemo for 6 months obviously losing her hair in this time. the cancer kept growing, so she had another operation on her arm but this time they wanted to take away summers shoulder and the rest of her arm and part of her body but they said they wanted to try a high dose of treatment first, this went on and on, and in october last year she was given the all clear!

She went to disney to celebrate wearing her little priness dress full of life.

She went back for a routine checkup in november last year and the doctors said it was back and there was nothing they could do and she had less than 4 weeks to live.

you could have knocked anyone of the family over with a feather, I shut my business down and me and my wife went to the iow to spend as much time as we could with Summer, a charity gave her a specialy adapted bike and she loved it bless her, she went on it for three days, when we went to the iow she was well, happy her normal cheeky self, then the cancer took hold, she complained of belly ache, so they put her on morphine, she then stopped eating, and went down hill fast, but being the little fighter she was she hung in there and would not give up. I will not say more on this part as it is very upsetting reliving the nightmare we was living in, and how her mum coped I just don't know.

Carrying my neices coffin out of the church is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and something I hope anyone would never have to go through, I have to say I was honoured to do it though carrying the most special little girl in the world, she really was a ray of sunsine in our lives..

This is why my wife is doing this race.
I am sorry if this has upset anyone but some as fieldy said are new on here, and if anyone is going through this you do not have to be alone I find it good to talk about it.

Every £1 donated helps.
Title: Re: HELP NEEDED!!!!
Post by: The Seven Bays Window Cleaning Company on June 07, 2009, 09:55:14 am: Hi Ian.

Of course I'll donate something.

I can't imagine anything worse happening.

I sincerely hope the pain is easing, and your rebuilding your lifes again.

All the best

Marc
Title: Re: HELP NEEDED!!!!
Post by: bluez on June 07, 2009, 09:56:02 am: Beautiful little girl such a tragedy for you and your family.
Title: Re: I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 10:04:52 am: Thank you guys and girls ;)

~~£75~~ ~~£77~~ £82 ~~£87~~ £112 raised so far ;D
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Fieldsy on June 07, 2009, 11:34:33 am: Didn't know the history of this m8 being a relatively new member. So sorry to hear it, such a lovely little girl. Not much m8, but hope it helps.

good luck!!

Fieldsy
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 12:22:09 pm: Quote from: Fieldsy on June 07, 2009, 11:34:33 am
Didn't know the history of this m8 being a relatively new member. So sorry to hear it, such a lovely little girl. Not much m8, but hope it helps.

good luck!!

Fieldsy
every sponsor helps m8, and thank you.
and thanks to all who have donated so far ;D
I have added the history for those that did not know what happened.
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: dave.e on June 07, 2009, 01:09:15 pm: Hi ian just read the post and mate my heart dose go out to you all. i will donate and may i just add with name summer when the sun's out it will remind every one what a special little girl she was. dave
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 01:28:16 pm: Quote from: Dave@S2none on June 07, 2009, 01:09:15 pm
Hi ian just read the post and mate my heart dose go out to you all. i will donate and may i just add with name summer when the sun's out it will remind every one what a special little girl she was. dave
Totally agree with you, and Thank you Dave ;)
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Sunshine/Cleaning on June 07, 2009, 02:39:57 pm: Ian, I have added a widget to my charity page.

http://sunshine-cleaning.net/charity.aspx
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 03:05:07 pm: Quote from: Sunshine/Cleaning on June 07, 2009, 02:39:57 pm
Ian, I have added a widget to my charity page.

http://sunshine-cleaning.net/charity.aspx
nice one, and thank you for your donations, and the same to all that have donated so far, help me smash the target ;)
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Mr Formby on June 07, 2009, 04:43:58 pm: Come on all you so called big earners

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Users OnLine Today ( 463 Users )
If every one only gave £1 ( less than 5 mins work )you could easily reach your target
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 04:54:46 pm: 21 people so far have made a difference so far today ;D
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: macmac on June 07, 2009, 05:59:01 pm: Big macmac reduced to tears & have no words. What an absolute tragedy, I'm gutted! :'( :'( :'( :'(
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Mr Formby on June 07, 2009, 06:24:09 pm: Lets hope you can reach your target tonight
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: macmac on June 07, 2009, 06:32:45 pm: Mrs. macmac in tears also, makes you realise how lucky you are sometimes. Donation made. :'( :'(

Good luck Ian & Lauren.Our hearts go out to you & your family. :-*
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: simon knight on June 07, 2009, 06:34:12 pm: Quote from: Mr Formby on June 07, 2009, 06:24:09 pm
Lets hope you can reach your target tonight

He has mate :D

Well done Ian...too many of my family have died of this cursed disease...delighted to be able to help!
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 06:35:45 pm: Quote from: macmac™ on June 07, 2009, 06:32:45 pm
Mrs. macmac in tears also, makes you realise how lucky you are sometimes. Donation made. :'( :'(

Good luck Ian & Lauren.Our hearts go out to you & your family. :-*
Thank you for donating, record is on course to be broken today and smashed before the race, thanks everyone so far.

Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Mr Formby on June 07, 2009, 06:36:58 pm: Make it £1k now Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 06:37:37 pm: Quote from: simon knight on June 07, 2009, 06:34:12 pm
Quote from: Mr Formby on June 07, 2009, 06:24:09 pm
Lets hope you can reach your target tonight

He has mate :D

Well done Ian...too many of my family have died of this cursed disease...delighted to be able to help!
:o Thank you Simon.
next target is double, so everyone else dont think you cant add to it. every pound will help people that are in need of help.

Ian

and who said window cleaners that come online are sad, you lot are Stars ;)
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: ftp on June 07, 2009, 07:31:45 pm: Very good cause - my wife did her race for life today. If you think your hard - try reading the stickers on the ladies backs which give details of why they are running. I can't read them any more it's too sad. :-\
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 07:57:22 pm: Quote from: ftp on June 07, 2009, 07:31:45 pm
Very good cause - my wife did her race for life today. If you think your hard - try reading the stickers on the ladies backs which give details of why they are running. I can't read them any more it's too sad. :-\
Writting this post had me in tears, I am dreading going to the race in July will be a sad day, but also an honour. I am well Proud of the support I have had from the uk forums so far you all know who you are, good on you,

Thank you all that have donated so far.

Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Oakley Windows on June 07, 2009, 09:29:38 pm: I bumped into an old flame last night, (Elaine) she looks well, very good looking girl; seems fine but its not quite as clear as that, cancer can be with us and be killing us silently without even knowing it.

7 years ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer, she recieved her treatment and was given the all clear for 5 years. Then out of the blue she was diagnosed with bone cancer, and last night she tells me she now has a brain tumor.

She knows she is going to die.

She has 3 girls, one of them, the youngest, is the prettiest thing you'll ever see. She'll break quite a few guys hearts when shes older.

Anyway, you also know Ian about my Mum last year dying very suddenly, we only had 3 days knowledge of her condition before she died. Very shocking at the time.

Matt
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: rz on June 07, 2009, 09:41:23 pm: my dad died two years ago of stomach cancer.

15 days between being told he had it and dying on my mums birthday.

i think what your doing is fantastic.

the story of your little princess had me crying like a baby

hope you smash your target.

come on guy and girls dig deep.
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 09:41:41 pm: Thank you Matt & RZ for the donation and everyone else that has donated so far I thank you all ;)

Cancer is a nightmare I know I have had it a few times myself, can strike anyone down young or old :'(

Target for today is set at £1000 £615 in so far from all you guys and ladies.

Keep them coming.

Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Moderator David@stives on June 07, 2009, 11:04:20 pm: Mr Formby

It doesnt matter how many people were online, there should be absolutely no pressure or cohersion for people to give.

People give or dont give for there own particular reasons and nobody should sit in judgement of that.

For posts like this to work there should be absolutely no pressure on anyone whatsoever.
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 07, 2009, 11:07:49 pm: Quote from: Dave morris @ st-ives on June 07, 2009, 11:04:20 pm
Mr Formby

It doesnt matter how many people were online, there should be absolutely no pressure or cohersion for people to give.

People give or dont give for there own particular reasons and nobody should sit in judgement of that.

For posts like this to work there should be absolutely no pressure on anyone whatsoever.
No pressure if people what to help they can if they dont thats also fine, have to say there are some very kind people on the forums.

and half the people or not online at weekends so even better, today has been a very good result.

£785 so far........ ;D
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: HIGH LEVEL WINDOW CLEANERS (scrimmy) on June 08, 2009, 06:43:14 am: ian, as you know i got wind of this on acs forums, and at that time (yesterday afternoon) the amount collected so far was roughly 150 quid, now you are at 3/4 of the your target.....what amazes me is the amount of goodwill on all the window cleaning forums, i didnt realise just how many guys have been touched in their own personal lives with this terrible disease and i wish everyone on this and the other forums all the best with the fund raising efforts for your charity for the benefit of others.

graeme
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 08, 2009, 01:09:30 pm: Quote from: scrimman on June 08, 2009, 06:43:14 am
ian, as you know i got wind of this on acs forums, and at that time (yesterday afternoon) the amount collected so far was roughly 150 quid, now you are at 3/4 of the your target.....what amazes me is the amount of goodwill on all the window cleaning forums, i didnt realise just how many guys have been touched in their own personal lives with this terrible disease and i wish everyone on this and the other forums all the best with the fund raising efforts for your charity for the benefit of others.

graeme
Thank you for you help, and thank you for the email you sent to your members.

Big big thank you to all the have donated so far, this can and will make a difference, you are all top people.

Total is now over £900 after the donations this morning ;D

Ian
P.S for the people that have donated, you have put a smile on Kalie (Summers mum's) face with your kindness also mine and my Wife Lauren's ;)
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: simon knight on June 08, 2009, 01:50:08 pm: I reckon we should make this an annual event...give a bit back like the cabbies!

Firstly: It will be donating to a massively worthwhile charity which we all may (God forbid) have need of at some point.

And secondly: It'll raise our profile in the public's eye from "over-charging greedy window cleaners" to "over-charging greedy window cleaners but at least they give something back".

I vote we call it: The Summer Trust.
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Moderator David@stives on June 08, 2009, 07:08:24 pm: Ian

Hope you blast your target, only £97 to go
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 08, 2009, 08:56:36 pm: Quote from: Dave morris @ st-ives on June 08, 2009, 07:08:24 pm
Ian

Hope you blast your target, only £97 to go, I have added another picture of Summer at the start of the tread in her little hat :)
£66.50 now, I am totally over the moon with what you people have done so far....... WOW........................Window cleaners and Suppliers are the tops

Thank you, and please anyone reading that whats to sponsor keep it coming.....

Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: j.v. price ltd on June 08, 2009, 10:16:56 pm: Ian,

Give me a shout tommorow, I saw your post this morning and had a chat with the lads at work at we have managed to pull together £150.00.

Think we should do this every year as well great idea

Charlie & all the boys at The Price Group
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 08, 2009, 10:30:53 pm: Quote from: J.V. Price Ltd on June 08, 2009, 10:16:56 pm
Ian,

Give me a shout tommorow, I saw your post this morning and had a chat with the lads at work at we have managed to pull together £150.00.

Think we should do this every year as well great idea

Charlie & all the boys at The Price Group
Many thanks Charlie give thanks to the lads from me, and again everyone else that keep helping I thank you all.

Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: karygate on June 09, 2009, 08:49:13 am: hi donated a fiver hope it helps and stirs some more to donate a bit
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 09, 2009, 09:09:11 am: Thanks for that Gary ;), every £1 helps, keep them coming people, and thanks to all so far. ;)
You are doing Summer proud ;D
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Pittmonkey on June 09, 2009, 05:11:00 pm: Congratulations Ian & Lauren. No Need to stop there everybody :)

Wayne
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 09, 2009, 07:23:37 pm: I dont want to stop as every £1 helps, I have set the new target a little lower than the last. I would never be able to raise all the money to cure this illness, but with all you guys and others that are donating can make a real difference, I am shocked at what we have raised so far, it is fantastic.

if anyone wants to donate £1 you do not have to put your name on show if that is what is putting you off of sponsoring, but £1 donations would really help, the more people the more money for Cancer Research and one step closer to the answer to this problem.

I personally and doing this out of respect for what Summer went through and for her Memory, hopefully she is looking down smiling also to help others maybe not have to go through any of it.

I have kids myself and don't know how I could cope if it struck (god forbid) (touch wood) one of my kids, I have had cancer myself so I know what my parents went through when I was a kid and how it affects me today, the world can be cure if is given free rain to do so....

Keep this going people, and once again thank you everyone that's read this and/or donated so far.

Make a different to someone else...
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Mr Formby on June 09, 2009, 07:32:56 pm: Quote
Mr Formby

It doesnt matter how many people were online, there should be absolutely no pressure or cohersion for people to give.

People give or dont give for there own particular reasons and nobody should sit in judgement of that.

For posts like this to work there should be absolutely no pressure on anyone whatsoever.

I think it does, this forum is supposed to help each other . Even if they only donated £1 it would all help
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 09, 2009, 08:09:21 pm: Quote from: Mr Formby on June 09, 2009, 07:32:56 pm
Quote
Mr Formby

It doesnt matter how many people were online, there should be absolutely no pressure or cohersion for people to give.

People give or dont give for there own particular reasons and nobody should sit in judgement of that.

For posts like this to work there should be absolutely no pressure on anyone whatsoever.

I think it does, this forum is supposed to help each other . Even if they only donated £1 it would all help
If people want to help they will, if they don't that is there choice. anyone what wants to sponsor/donate £1 or more is of course more than welcome ;)
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: ronnie paton on June 09, 2009, 08:11:20 pm: iv donated but i do have to say its personal choice, some may have just recently done the manchester run for charity(like me ;D) or some may regualr make donations to charity and you have to stop some were!

But Ian your story got me hook line and sinker and that is why i donated and im sure that is also why others have.

Good luck!!!
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 09, 2009, 08:28:14 pm: Thanks Ronnie ;)

you and another 56 people have made this happen so far and make me proud that you are helping with something that means a great deal to me.

Even window Cleaners in America are helping with this.

Thank you all :D

And hope to make this 100+ people by the weekend
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: windowcleaninginessex.co.uk on June 09, 2009, 08:45:56 pm: Ian ,
good luck to your wife on the run, cancer reasearch is the only charity i give a regular donation to. I can understand how you all feel i lost my mum to cancer at the age of 14 (few tears now).
My wife done the playtex moonwalk marathon 2 years ago, 26 miles in pink bra middle of the night in London along with 5000 other girls in bras, she sleep for 2 days after this but she raised Just under £2200, which was worth the pain.
I went to all my customers and gave them note and sponsor sheet to them, i would say 90% donated, maybe you should do this to
Good luck
Darren
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 09, 2009, 09:21:04 pm: Quote from: darrencharm on June 09, 2009, 08:45:56 pm
Ian ,
good luck to your wife on the run, cancer reasearch is the only charity i give a regular donation to. I can understand how you all feel i lost my mum to cancer at the age of 14 (few tears now).
My wife done the playtex moonwalk marathon 2 years ago, 26 miles in pink bra middle of the night in London along with 5000 other girls in bras, she sleep for 2 days after this but she raised Just under £2200, which was worth the pain.
I went to all my customers and gave them note and sponsor sheet to them, i would say 90% donated, maybe you should do this to
Good luck
Darren
Thanks Darren,

Sorry if I upset you in anyway and sorry to hear about your Mum.

What your Wife did is fantastic.
I will be giving a note to my customers, as many of them new why I shut down last year and many had asked about Summers progress before the final 4 weeks, i'm sure some of them will sponsor as well as people are on here.

Thank you to the person that just donated ;D

Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Brodex on June 10, 2009, 05:32:45 pm: Hi Ian, it was good to talk to you the other day. It's great to see what you and your wife are doing. It's a moving story and I'm sorry for your loss. But doing something positive like this is the finest way to deal with it.

Of course I'll donate something, all the best to you and your family.

Kind regards
Sean at Brodex
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 10, 2009, 10:09:54 pm: Quote from: Brodex on June 10, 2009, 05:32:45 pm
Hi Ian, it was good to talk to you the other day. It's great to see what you and your wife are doing. It's a moving story and I'm sorry for your loss. But doing something positive like this is the finest way to deal with it.

Of course I'll donate something, all the best to you and your family.

Kind regards
Sean at Brodex
Thanks Sean,

And thank you to the person that donated today.

Ian
over £1250 so far, please keep it coming.

Ian
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: peter holley on June 11, 2009, 01:33:39 am: i,ve literally just got in fron my holidays, 5 hr drive from gatwick :o and when iv had a kip i will defo donate tomorrow...my own nephew had lymphoma , but he was fortunate and now has kids of his own .... but this horrible disease took my mum 6 yrs ago, .....this post has really touched me.....i cant even begin to imagine what losing a child is like :(

seeing the pictures has really hit home....
i'm so sorry for your loss ian

peter
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Post by: Window Washers on June 11, 2009, 11:37:39 am: Quote from: p holley on June 11, 2009, 01:33:39 am
i,ve literally just got in fron my holidays, 5 hr drive from gatwick :o and when iv had a kip i will defo donate tomorrow...my own nephew had lymphoma , but he was fortunate and now has kids of his own .... but this horrible disease took my mum 6 yrs ago, .....this post has really touched me.....i cant even begin to imagine what losing a child is like :(

seeing the pictures has really hit home....
i'm so sorry for your loss ian

peter
Thanks Peter,

hope you had a good holiday and sorry to hear about your mother, your nephew was a lucky fella :)

Ian
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Post by: Window Washers on June 11, 2009, 06:04:15 pm: Thank you Brodex for your donation, also Anon nice to see some suppliers joining in, Anon a supplier that did not want to be named which I respect. (I know how you are though ;) )

Also thanks for all the others so far ;)

Ian
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Post by: macmac on June 12, 2009, 08:52:52 pm: Well done Ian

Along with summer, your words, courage & efforts have touched the hearts of many.

Keep up the good work everyone. ;)
Title: Re: ................................................. I really need some help !
Post by: Window Washers on June 13, 2009, 01:55:16 pm: Quote from: macmac™ on June 12, 2009, 08:52:52 pm
Well done Ian

Along with summer, your words, courage & efforts have touched the hearts of many.

Keep up the good work everyone. ;)
Thank you Mac and everyone thats donated, also the ones that have read and just reflected on this.

Ian
Title: Re: ..............................................Your help is making a difference
Post by: RO-Sheen on June 15, 2009, 07:53:12 pm: Just done my donation and best of luck to your wife. It is a massive sacrifice she is making for the marathon with all of the training so she should feel very proud of herself! Good on her and good on you for supporting her!
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Post by: Window Washers on June 16, 2009, 03:24:08 pm: Thank you ;D still climbing, just want to reach £2008 as that is the year Summer died

Any one that what to help reach this please feel free.

Ian
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Post by: Window Washers on June 17, 2009, 08:00:32 pm: the top for the race have been printed today, just feels so wrong to me, but wanted so show all the people that have sponsored this so far.

Thanks all.

Ian
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Post by: Mr.G on June 17, 2009, 09:52:24 pm: good luck with reaching your target, it's a horrible evil disease.
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Post by: Window Washers on June 18, 2009, 08:36:31 am: Quote from: Mr.G on June 17, 2009, 09:52:24 pm
good luck with reaching your target, it's a horrible evil disease.
That you for your donation and to everyone, the target is beat now and still growing :D. :D :D
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Ian
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Post by: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 08:35:29 am: Up untill a couple of days ago this was just another story that didnt really mean anything to me i know that might sound harsh or uncaring and i dont mean any offence by it
But we have just found out that my mum has stomach cancer and yesterday she went in for her op to have part of it taken away unfortunately the cancer was worse than they anticipated and her whole stomach was infected so they took the decision to leave it as it would not improve her quality of life she cannot eat or drink ever again and has less than 6 months to live
She has always been there for anyone shes a real people person and even when i was sobbing like a baby she was the one making sure i was okay
It seems cancer is in our family from her dads side with her two sisters and a niece having died with it
I am still feeling quite numb about it at the moment
Hope my small donation can help in some way
Title: Re: ..............................................Your help is making a difference
Post by: Window Washers on June 19, 2009, 08:47:34 am: Quote from: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 08:35:29 am
Up untill a couple of days ago this was just another story that didnt really mean anything to me i know that might sound harsh or uncaring and i dont mean any offence by it
But we have just found out that my mum has stomach cancer and yesterday she went in for her op to have part of it taken away unfortunately the cancer was worse than they anticipated and her whole stomach was infected so they took the decision to leave it as it would not improve her quality of life she cannot eat or drink ever again and has less than 6 months to live
She has always been there for anyone shes a real people person and even when i was sobbing like a baby she was the one making sure i was okay
It seems cancer is in our family from her dads side with her two sisters and a niece having died with it
I am still feeling quite numb about it at the moment
Hope my small donation can help in some way
I'm so sorry to hear that, is horibble news, it does not sound harsh at all and I know many people feel the same, if they had seem it first hand they would totally think in a different way, watching my neice dying was torture.

if you want to talk, you have my number in a weird way talking to a stranger seems to help as you can say what you really feel, many people on here called and spoke to me whilst Summer was ill, and many a tear was shed by them and they didnt know her, but guess could feel the pain in my voice. (you guys know who you are and I thank you for helping me ;) it really did make a difference to me, as I had to be the rock for my wife and sister inlaw )
One thing I will say is make the most of the time you have and don't bottle it up its not good for you.
Thank you for your donation, and best wishes to your Mum and to you and your family.

Try and stay strong!

Ian
p.s it is ok to cry
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Post by: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 08:52:37 am: Thanks Ian your kind words have set me off
Being strong is easier said than done i am a six foot tall big bloke and im the one doing the most crying and mopeing
Thanks again
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Post by: Window Washers on June 19, 2009, 09:10:04 am: Quote from: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 08:52:37 am
Thanks Ian your kind words have set me off
Being strong is easier said than done i am a six foot tall big bloke and im the one doing the most crying and mopeing
Thanks again
Your welcome Dean and sorry for setting you off.

I'm 6ft also and cried when I wrote this post out, also again when I uploaded the pic of the race tops. Nothing wrong with tears they are a good release for you, wish I could have at the time (and I don't normally cry either)

Any others reading and have not sponsored this please feel free to donate.
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Post by: Oakley Windows on June 19, 2009, 09:21:15 am: Quote from: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 08:35:29 am
Up untill a couple of days ago this was just another story that didnt really mean anything to me i know that might sound harsh or uncaring and i dont mean any offence by it
But we have just found out that my mum has stomach cancer and yesterday she went in for her op to have part of it taken away unfortunately the cancer was worse than they anticipated and her whole stomach was infected so they took the decision to leave it as it would not improve her quality of life she cannot eat or drink ever again and has less than 6 months to live
She has always been there for anyone shes a real people person and even when i was sobbing like a baby she was the one making sure i was okay
It seems cancer is in our family from her dads side with her two sisters and a niece having died with it
I am still feeling quite numb about it at the moment
Hope my small donation can help in some way

Dean Im really sorry to hear your news, you undoubtedly feel devastated.

If there can be any solace in the fact that others have been where you are before.

My Mother died last year very very suddenly. She was diagnosed with cancer in multiple sites throughout her body, the primary being ovarian. She died 3 days after her diagnosis. We were literally having Sunday lunch with her one week completely unaware of her being ill, the next Sunday she had been dead 2 days.

If I can say anything to help, it is that you MUST spend time with her, we had 3 days where Mum said she was the happiest she had ever been. It is good to know now we were there and 'walked' with her if you see what I mean.

Some people have NO time to set things good and okay with their loved ones.

You have some time, use it.

When Mum first recieved her diagnosis her GP spoke to me and my 2 sisters privately and said 'You are at the start of a journey and afterwards you will be different people' (He was crying when he told us as his Dad had died 5 months earlier) IT will be the same for you Dean. He was right.

My thoughts are with you and your family Dean.

Matt

p.s. its funny Dean what you say about your Mum being strong for you still after her diagnosis and you doing the crying; I went into my Mums bedroom for the first time after she was told, crying (like I am now remembering it) and she was the one saying she wasnt afraid and it was all going to be okay even if she was going to die......theyre Mums to the end, and when theyre gone you know you only had one (that to me is why it is so sad sometimes)
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Post by: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 11:15:48 am: Matt
Thanks for the kind words it feels like this has only ever happened to me and no one knows what it feels like but your words show that others have been are are currently going through the same thing
Fortunately we do have some time left and i will treasure every moment she wants family and people around her she likes to have people around her its what makes her happy
It must have been hard for you only getting three days im also sorry for your loss
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Post by: Moderator David@stives on June 19, 2009, 11:31:55 am: My Mother was diagnosed with Liver Cancer 2 weeks before she died. It was hard but you had time to deal with it,

I sat at her side when she took her last breaths, somehow that made it a lot easier to deal with.

When my Brother died who was 19, that was a lot harder to take, it was sudden and totally unexpected, no time to prepare whatsoever.

Just be there for your mum.

Dave
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Post by: Oakley Windows on June 19, 2009, 12:18:00 pm: Quote from: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 11:15:48 am
Matt
Thanks for the kind words it feels like this has only ever happened to me and no one knows what it feels like but your words show that others have been are are currently going through the same thing
Fortunately we do have some time left and i will treasure every moment she wants family and people around her she likes to have people around her its what makes her happy
It must have been hard for you only getting three days im also sorry for your loss

3 days was okay actually Dean, it could have been worse.

We were glad in a selfish/odd/strange kind of way that that was it.

In fact there was also humor. On one ocassion Mum was lying in bed, she died at home, she'd just cracked a joke, no-one actually laughed as we were all so wound up in the emotion of it all, and she responded in a sarcastic way 'Whats the matter? I aint dying you know!' Amazing!
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Post by: Oakley Windows on June 19, 2009, 12:28:07 pm: There are things you can do as well after your Mum has gone.

My Mum was a member of the RSPB so I continued her membership but in my name.
I also donate monthly to Macmillan.
I do things for old ladies and customers that I sometimes think I should have done for my Mum, I kinda pretend theyre my Mum I guess, maybe Mums watching me do it and approves; whatever, I know its good to do.

I used to talk to Mum at work after she died, that felt good too. When I see some types of birds flying (birds of prey in particular) I think more of Mum as she loved those things.

All may sound silly to some, but these things have helped me.

Matt
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Post by: R W C on June 19, 2009, 06:04:47 pm: My missus was worried and went to doctors yesterday, nurse found a lump in her breast and she has a ppointment next Thursday for tests, fingers crossed that all will be ok.

Chris
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Post by: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 08:55:40 pm: RWC
Hope everything goes well
Dave/Matt all good points you have made
Feeling a little better now as i have just spent all the afternoon with her and shes in good spirits and looking better after the trauma of the op also making jokes i realise the worst is to come and definately i will be there as much as possible which is why i am cutting back drastically on my work new priorities now theirs plenty of time later for work
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Post by: Window Washers on June 19, 2009, 09:00:10 pm: Quote from: Dean Aspects on June 19, 2009, 08:55:40 pm
RWC
Hope everything goes well
Dave/Matt all good points you have made
Feeling a little better now as i have just spent all the afternoon with her and shes in good spirits and looking better after the trauma of the op also making jokes i realise the worst is to come and definately i will be there as much as possible which is why i am cutting back drastically on my work new priorities now theirs plenty of time later for work
I shut mine down to half tilt, got a few moaning customers (and lost them because of it, some I canceled there and then ) ::)
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Post by: Window Washers on June 25, 2009, 09:41:17 am: £2151.50 raised so far, many thanks everyone that donated so far, please help keep it growing for those who have not ;)

Ian