Marc Stock

6 weeks? Shocking.
« on: August 14, 2018, 01:59:11 pm »
I just dont know what to think or say.

Picked up this new customer as a group of houses next to each other; 3 in a row as thier old window cleaner had just disappeared.

Went to collect payment from the end house; as she was paying I asked her how her day was going so far; you know just the normal smalltalk you do.

She looked at me and her eyes were a bit watery;." Well not so good marc, my husband has terminal cancer and is now in palliative care; they think he has 2 weeks to go and we are arranging affairs for the inevitable outcome."

Gobsmacked; last time I saw him he had just got back from the garden centre and was doing some gardening; a fit healthy chap.  That was 6 weeks ago.

Crazy..


Smudger

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #1 on: August 14, 2018, 02:16:19 pm »
It’s such a cruel disease

Always lost for words when customers drop that bombshell

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paul alan

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #2 on: August 14, 2018, 02:16:58 pm »
That big "C" is a horrible thing!

Its horrible to see what it does to some people, and fast like you say.

Not looking forward to see what old age has in store for me.

dazmond

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #3 on: August 14, 2018, 04:08:30 pm »
the worst cancers are kidney,pancreatic and cancer of the oesophagus.....most die within weeks of diagnosis.....a few of my customers have died in a very short space of time of one of these 3........
price higher/work harder!

Stoots

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #4 on: August 14, 2018, 05:42:32 pm »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

Slacky

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #5 on: August 14, 2018, 06:50:36 pm »
My mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer on the Wednesday she was dead on the Friday.

Slacky

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #6 on: August 14, 2018, 06:51:12 pm »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.

Walter Mitty

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #7 on: August 14, 2018, 07:06:39 pm »
At 61, having lost a few friends along the way, death's relentless reality creeps ever closer.
I lost an old friend only last week.  I hadn't seen him for years as he moved away long ago.  Apparently he died from COPD, a lung disease.  I don't suppose all that hashish smoking helped much.
Me?  In the last couple of years I have had a "very minor" issue noted with a heart valve and was recently informed that I'm pre-diabetic - I'm at the very high end of that scale, but not quite diabetic.
So, since the start of June, I've lost just under three stone in weight.  The rate of loss is starting to slow now.  I'm still very much overweight but feeling fitter than I have for years.  It's easier to get through my work now - so much so that I ought to increase my workload.
It's interesting to note that my blood pressure has dropped too - consistently back within the 'normal' range (I self monitor).

Unfortunately, about a dozen of my customers have died in the past couple of years - it's normally two or three a year at most.

I intend to be around for a long time yet, but so much is luck of the draw.

windowswashed

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #8 on: August 14, 2018, 07:44:17 pm »
Sadly as we get older we lose more friends, relatives. I lost a cousin and his girlfriend to suicide and they were younger than me this month and last month.  We don't know what's around the corner for any of us so make your time count.

Go

Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #9 on: August 14, 2018, 07:51:33 pm »
My mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer on the Wednesday she was dead on the Friday.

f*** that’s quick.

Marc Stock

Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #10 on: August 14, 2018, 08:07:38 pm »
My mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer on the Wednesday she was dead on the Friday.

f*** that’s quick.

That must have been really hard for you Slacky

Slacky

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #11 on: August 14, 2018, 09:19:19 pm »
I don’t know if it was any harder than other people might struggle with when a parent dies. My dad died when I was two, so really I can’t compare to anyone else.

It was tough with my Mum but we had 3 days to talk and resolve any issues. By the time Friday came round she was ready to go so we administered the oramorph, as she wanted. That was what I had most difficulty dealing with, the fact we had hastened her demise. But it’s what she wanted and you wouldn’t let an animal struggle on in the way Mum was once her breathing  became unbearable.

johnwillan

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #12 on: August 14, 2018, 09:53:49 pm »
At 61, having lost a few friends along the way, death's relentless reality creeps ever closer.
I lost an old friend only last week.  I hadn't seen him for years as he moved away long ago.  Apparently he died from COPD, a lung disease.  I don't suppose all that hashish smoking helped much.
Me?  In the last couple of years I have had a "very minor" issue noted with a heart valve and was recently informed that I'm pre-diabetic - I'm at the very high end of that scale, but not quite diabetic.
So, since the start of June, I've lost just under three stone in weight.  The rate of loss is starting to slow now.  I'm still very much overweight but feeling fitter than I have for years.  It's easier to get through my work now - so much so that I ought to increase my workload.
It's interesting to note that my blood pressure has dropped too - consistently back within the 'normal' range (I self monitor).

Unfortunately, about a dozen of my customers have died in the past couple of years - it's normally two or three a year at most.

I intend to be around for a long time yet, but so much is luck of the draw.

You might find this interesting...

https://youtu.be/1a2Fsfa8e4I

HTH

John

Kev Martin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #13 on: August 14, 2018, 10:26:37 pm »
I don’t know if it was any harder than other people might struggle with when a parent dies. My dad died when I was two, so really I can’t compare to anyone else.

It was tough with my Mum but we had 3 days to talk and resolve any issues. By the time Friday came round she was ready to go so we administered the oramorph, as she wanted. That was what I had most difficulty dealing with, the fact we had hastened her demise. But it’s what she wanted and you wouldn’t let an animal struggle on in the way Mum was once her breathing  became unbearable.

Lost my Mum in February like that!  Very tough but was grateful for the auto morphine.  The last 12 hours were excruciating and I hate to think what it would have been like without the morphine
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AuRavelling79

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #14 on: August 14, 2018, 11:46:56 pm »
Sorry to hear that Kev.  Condolences to you and your family.
It's a game of three halves!

Kev Martin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #15 on: August 15, 2018, 09:46:48 am »
Sorry to hear that Kev.  Condolences to you and your family.

Thank you for those kind words.  Very much appreciated
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Marc Stock

Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #16 on: August 15, 2018, 11:05:04 am »
I think we need an 'agreed' or 'concur' button in these subjects.

Ian Lancaster

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #17 on: August 16, 2018, 09:01:09 pm »
My wife Lise and I met at a singles club 24 years ago (second marriage for us both).  On the same night we met another couple who had also met at the club a year earlier.  Been friends ever since, meeting up at least once a week.  Six weeks ago the man developed a lump on the side of his face.  After a couple of weeks it became troublesome so they went to the doctor.  He referred them immediately to the hospital.  Tests showed he had undiagnosed lung cancer caused by smoking (he gave it up 20 years ago) and the lump was a secondary tumor.  Programme of chemo arranged, radio started.  He had low oxygen levels so they kept him in hospital and drained his lungs.  Next day he was too ill to start the chemo.  Two days later he died.  He was a year younger than me.

Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #18 on: August 17, 2018, 04:19:30 am »
Thinking of slacky and Kevin. Evil disease and doesn’t matter how long ago it happened to a love one. It always stays fresh in the mind.

Just seems particularly cruel.

Slacky

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #19 on: August 17, 2018, 08:36:49 am »
Thinking of slacky and Kevin. Evil disease and doesn’t matter how long ago it happened to a love one. It always stays fresh in the mind.

Just seems particularly cruel.

Thankyou. It was over 10 years ago anyway, but at the time not easy at all.

G Griffin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #20 on: August 17, 2018, 10:10:40 am »
I just dont know what to think or say.

Picked up this new customer as a group of houses next to each other; 3 in a row as thier old window cleaner had just disappeared.

Went to collect payment from the end house; as she was paying I asked her how her day was going so far; you know just the normal smalltalk you do.

She looked at me and her eyes were a bit watery;." Well not so good marc, my husband has terminal cancer and is now in palliative care; they think he has 2 weeks to go and we are arranging affairs for the inevitable outcome."

Gobsmacked; last time I saw him he had just got back from the garden centre and was doing some gardening; a fit healthy chap.  That was 6 weeks ago.

Crazy..
Not really; it's happening all the time.
It could be any of us and nothing prepares us for it, believe me. Time becomes everything and you lose control of things.
On a more positive note  ;D, I believe pain control is good these days if you're in the right hands.
Enjoy your day, fellahs.
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tlwcs

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #21 on: August 17, 2018, 12:18:54 pm »
At 61, having lost a few friends along the way, death's relentless reality creeps ever closer.
I lost an old friend only last week.  I hadn't seen him for years as he moved away long ago.  Apparently he died from COPD, a lung disease.  I don't suppose all that hashish smoking helped much.
Me?  In the last couple of years I have had a "very minor" issue noted with a heart valve and was recently informed that I'm pre-diabetic - I'm at the very high end of that scale, but not quite diabetic.
So, since the start of June, I've lost just under three stone in weight.  The rate of loss is starting to slow now.  I'm still very much overweight but feeling fitter than I have for years.  It's easier to get through my work now - so much so that I ought to increase my workload.
It's interesting to note that my blood pressure has dropped too - consistently back within the 'normal' range (I self monitor).

Unfortunately, about a dozen of my customers have died in the past couple of years - it's normally two or three a year at most.

I intend to be around for a long time yet, but so much is luck of the draw.

So sad Marc, I hate it when I'm told that by mine,  just what do you say.

Well done Walter. 😁
I'm the same. A well man check up a  couple of months also said I'm pre-diabetic. I've lost 13lbs by counting calories, a 4,3,3,1,1,1 weekly loss. Loving the 5-2/ fasting science that after my holiday (a cruise damn it) I'm going to give it a go. How have you done such rapid loss?

John Mart

Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #22 on: August 17, 2018, 03:53:36 pm »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.
More than. Northerners die younger.  ;D

Walter Mitty

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #23 on: August 17, 2018, 06:45:40 pm »
At 61, having lost a few friends along the way, death's relentless reality creeps ever closer.
I lost an old friend only last week.  I hadn't seen him for years as he moved away long ago.  Apparently he died from COPD, a lung disease.  I don't suppose all that hashish smoking helped much.
Me?  In the last couple of years I have had a "very minor" issue noted with a heart valve and was recently informed that I'm pre-diabetic - I'm at the very high end of that scale, but not quite diabetic.
So, since the start of June, I've lost just under three stone in weight.  The rate of loss is starting to slow now.  I'm still very much overweight but feeling fitter than I have for years.  It's easier to get through my work now - so much so that I ought to increase my workload.
It's interesting to note that my blood pressure has dropped too - consistently back within the 'normal' range (I self monitor).

Unfortunately, about a dozen of my customers have died in the past couple of years - it's normally two or three a year at most.

I intend to be around for a long time yet, but so much is luck of the draw.

So sad Marc, I hate it when I'm told that by mine,  just what do you say.

Well done Walter. 😁
I'm the same. A well man check up a  couple of months also said I'm pre-diabetic. I've lost 13lbs by counting calories, a 4,3,3,1,1,1 weekly loss. Loving the 5-2/ fasting science that after my holiday (a cruise damn it) I'm going to give it a go. How have you done such rapid loss?

I haven't done anything spectacular to achieve that weight loss, and I was pretty shocked that it came off so quickly.

All I've done is cut out all sweet stuff except a small bar of chocolate once every two weeks.  Also, once a month, I  go down the coast for the evening, so treat myself to a portion of onion rings and a pineapple fritter from a lovely chippy.  Those are my treats and I focus on them when I feel tempted.  It's a little psychological trick.  I don't tell myself 'no treats' - rather, I defer it until  one of my treat days.

Also, I only eat now when I feel hungry, and I choose something that's reasonably healthy and drastically cut the portion sizes.  It's possible that I may have to work harder at it as the weight loss slows, but the above is working for me so far.

Another thing I'm doing is taking regular exercise.  It doesn't have to be anything dramatic - maybe three (very) brisk twenty minute walks per week.  I know we get exercise in our work, but that's not enough.  It needs to be the sort that gets us puffing a bit and increases heart rate.

G Griffin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #24 on: August 17, 2018, 11:27:48 pm »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.
More than. Northerners die younger.  ;D
I hope so.
If all that we've got to look forward to is onion rings and a pineapple fritter.
If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself. 

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Walter Mitty

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #25 on: August 18, 2018, 07:53:14 am »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.
More than. Northerners die younger.  ;D
I hope so.
If all that we've got to look forward to is onion rings and a pineapple fritter.
If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself.

But it is a lovely chippy, and at the seaside too :)

*Hector*

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #26 on: August 18, 2018, 08:31:49 am »

If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself.

Griff do you want a pineapple ring??   :P




ps got a phone you can borrow if you like  ;D ;D ;D ;D
Everyday this forum slips further from God.  :'(

G Griffin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #27 on: August 18, 2018, 10:41:28 am »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.
More than. Northerners die younger.  ;D
I hope so.
If all that we've got to look forward to is onion rings and a pineapple fritter.
If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself.

But it is a lovely chippy, and at the seaside too :)
It is relaxing to see and hear the sea. 
How's the writing going?
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Walter Mitty

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #28 on: August 18, 2018, 10:47:00 am »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.
More than. Northerners die younger.  ;D
I hope so.
If all that we've got to look forward to is onion rings and a pineapple fritter.
If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself.

But it is a lovely chippy, and at the seaside too :)
It is relaxing to see and hear the sea. 
How's the writing going?

Quite well thanks.  I'm most of the way through the first draft of a novel.  The sea is great inspiration, I find - even in winter.

G Griffin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #29 on: August 18, 2018, 10:49:08 am »

If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself.

Griff do you want a pineapple ring??   :P




ps got a phone you can borrow if you like  ;D ;D ;D ;D
It depends whose it is, H  :o
But pineapple shouldn't be anywhere near a pizza or gammon. In a bowl of ice cream, yes.

And I'm not ready for that yet. I want to see how Bielsa does with your lot first. A very interesting appointment.
You've got a good 'un there.
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*Hector*

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #30 on: August 18, 2018, 10:54:40 am »
Yes we have.... One of your forums (scousers FC or summat ) has about 6 pages on him and and us......
Everyday this forum slips further from God.  :'(

G Griffin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #31 on: August 18, 2018, 10:57:47 am »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.
More than. Northerners die younger.  ;D
I hope so.
If all that we've got to look forward to is onion rings and a pineapple fritter.
If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself.

But it is a lovely chippy, and at the seaside too :)
It is relaxing to see and hear the sea. 
How's the writing going?

Quite well thanks.  I'm most of the way through the first draft of a novel.  The sea is great inspiration, I find - even in winter.
I like it and it can be more impressive in winter.
Keep us posted about the novel (though you might have to do it in 'the other section').  I'm sure there'll be plenty of interest over there.
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G Griffin

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #32 on: August 18, 2018, 11:04:32 am »
Yes we have.... One of your forums (scousers FC or summat ) has about 6 pages on him and and us......
I read a lot about him on a Liverpool forum before he got the Leeds job. One of the Ed's is a big fan.
How he'd watch Liverpool train whilst he was up a ladder against the training ground fence. He then rented a room in a house overlooking the training ground.
He plays the right way too.
I hope he gets you to where you should be. Leeds should be in the Premier League.
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Walter Mitty

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Re: 6 weeks? Shocking.
« Reply #33 on: August 18, 2018, 11:09:07 am »
Theres not much to look forward to about getting old is there

I never thought about these things until i turned 35, staring 40 in the face is like this is getting real pretty fast...

Ah dear

You’re halfway there.
More than. Northerners die younger.  ;D
I hope so.
If all that we've got to look forward to is onion rings and a pineapple fritter.
If someone offered me a pineapple fritter I'd be ringing the Grim Reaper myself.

But it is a lovely chippy, and at the seaside too :)
It is relaxing to see and hear the sea. 
How's the writing going?

Quite well thanks.  I'm most of the way through the first draft of a novel.  The sea is great inspiration, I find - even in winter.
I like it and it can be more impressive in winter.
Keep us posted about the novel (though you might have to do it in 'the other section').  I'm sure there'll be plenty of interest over there.

My main success so far was winning a flash fiction competition a while back.  I will paste it over there in the near future now that the rights have reverted to me.  It lacks the descriptiveness of many stories because three hundred words is a very tight word limit to write a story (more a scene really).  I had to totally delete the part where God threw up on the pub floor.

Anyway, wrong section for this.